I am embarrasssed about where i live ?
Monday, June 22nd, 2009 at
5:36 am
I used to be rich and went to a private boarding school for 11 years and then my mum (single parent family) became poor. We used to live in nice places but now we live above the shop she owns. I had to change school (public grammar) and i am in a really good group of friends that dont care about stuff like that because they are not exactly rich. What im worried about is my friends at my old private school because i used to be very popular, i try to avoid them now because my status has changed and im just embarressed of telling them i live above a shop. i live in an ok flat which my mum renovated and everything but its just i live in a shop. I know my rich friends from my old school wont care because i know they really and genuinely like me but im always making excuses about having to go to town to buy something just to go home. Please help
People dont really see me as poor though because i think i am wealthy in my character but im not trying to be someone else. If i want something i dont just ask my mum but ill make that money through a job or something so i have nice materialistic items such as good phones and clothes. the vocab i use as well really makes people think differently about me but again im not trying to be something else that i am not.
thanks everyone, my friends know now and its all fine, they even think its quite cool living in town and being able to be in town everyday.
thanks
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Get over it! stop being fake..you can’t help where you live. There are many people that live worst off then you. So what your friend’s might judge you, or pick fun at you..but true friend’s wouldn’t do that. So they weren’t you’re friend’s to begin with. Stick with the people you just met..having money doesn’t always mean happiness. Everything happens for a reason..so just try to be happy.
maybe if you explain to your friends how you came to be in this situation they will be more sympathetic to your dilemma
You cant do anything about any financial disasters, the whole world is under reccesion, u dont hv to be embarrased
and about ur friends, i suppose if there are true friends then, money status dosent come in the way !
good luck
same situation. you have to accept it. and just go out, and dont invite people over, invite yourself over or something. thats if your really ashamed. but you will get over it, you will prob loose contact with your old friends in 20 yrs anyway lol
If your rich friends have a problem with it, then they were never your friends to begin with. Don’t worry about them, if they don’t like it, they are other people that you could become friends with in your school.
Why don’t you just be thankful you still have a roof over your head, and your not having to live in your car or in back alleys.
My dear boy .. to each life style there are advantages and disadvantages. We are the product sum of our expeiences; take your experineces and go on living without looking behind. You have tried the good life now things have changed.
Freinds should like you for you and not of what you have or not have. It should not make a difference to them if you are rich or poor. Material friends are so shallow and not worth keeping.
First, its good that you are learning to work for those things which your mum cannot provide. The global recession is hurting everyone - you and your mum are lucky to have a place and a shop. Others are worse off.
I know the adjustment will be hard to make but you have to make it - start focusing more on developing your spiritual and emotional self rather than perpetrating a lie (that everything is OK and you still got it). Talk to your friends one by one, starting with the more influential ones (who will stand by you and support you when the others learn about it).
be thankful for two things - your mum and your health. There are many kids out there without mothers (and love) and some dying of cancer. Don’t sweat the small things thinking they are big things.
MMMMMmmm, does a poor Sub-Saharan African boy living in a mud hut with many other family members get embarrassed about where he lives???
When I see comments like yours it really upsets me on how some of the western people think and there values regarding life in general. I don’t want to come across sounding rude but you are deluded and sadly the ideal sheep for any capitalist country, is that not embarrassing enough !!!
My friend you are rich wether you realize it or not, you have everything but you are not looking hard enough. You don’t need to prove anything to anybody but yourself and those who judge are only judging themselves.
All the best
Do you want to be known merely as “rich” boy ? If you do, I think that’s very untrue.
You said yourself that you are popular. Is it only because you are rich ? I don’t think so. Since you said yourself that you know your rich friends don’t care if you are rich or not, I think you have other qualities that makes you popular. Try this list : friendly, help-full, good-looking, good-grades / intelligent, great to hang around, ………….(fill it out yourself).
Suggestion : You might not know your own qualities. So I suggest you write them down seriously in a piece of paper about what you think your good qualities are that makes you popular. Stick them where it’s easy for you to see. And remind yourself about these qualities whenever you feel “down-cast” again. Don’t under-estimate this “game”. It can change your way of thinking.
You know what ? Don’t feel sorry about things that already happen. Even if you do, things will not be better but worse. There’s a good prayer I would like to share with you : Lord, help me change the things that can be changed and help me accept things that cannot be changed. And give me wisdom to differentiate these two things.
Be positive thinking about everything that comes to your life. Because whether you are weeping or happy. Life goes on. So it’s your choice whether you want to lead your life in happiness or in sorrows. So, dear, what’s your choice ? You want to live your life happily or sadly ?
Let’s think about it this way. When you are rich, you used to personalize yourself as “rich boy” It means the only thing that makes you valuable as a human being is being rich. If you are not rich anymore, then you are not a valuable human being anymore. Do you see how untrue it is ? Do you still want to depend on this asumption about being rich is that important ?
Now that you are not rich, it is an opportunity to know yourself in a new way. This is a great chance for you to know who you really are. Not just “a rich boy”. So explore yourself. Find your personal qualities that is hidden in you all this time. I’m sure you’ll be surprised to know yourself once again from other perspectives.
Think about this as a second chance for you to define who you are, not from outside qualities (wealth) but from inner qualities (your true wealth).
I want you to think about this :
“YOU” used to be rich ? YOU ?
I think it should be “Your Mom” used to be rich. It’s not you who work and earn a living. It’s your MOM. So, let’s make this point straight. It’s not YOU who became poor. It’s your MOM.
The reason I bring this up is : Have you thought about how hard it must be for your mother accepting the truth about what has happened ? It’s not easy being a single parent you know ? So, please appreciate what she’d already done for you.
The bright thing is, you still have your mom to protect you. Imagine what it would be like if you don’t have your mom in this situation. You can still go to school and have a house to live in.
In all things, give thanks with a gratefull heart. Because things could be worse.
Here are few things to thank for :
Be gratefull that you are still alive, you still have your mom, you are healthy, you can still go to school, you still have a house to live in, thanks to all lessons that life’s teaching you, thanks for your all new friends, for meals that you can still enjoy every day, thanks that you still have clothes to wear, thanks for your future to come-a bright one etc…..
Don’t worry so much. Ok ?
will bless you poor little heart. face it , that is life. just learn how to blend in with the people who are not rich. money cant buy everything.they are allot of people worsts out there and they don’t have a place to call home so you are not poor. get over it.
money should not be the answer to life .don’t be ashamed of where you live because if you look at it like this when the money is gone the rich friends will not what to to do but you on the other hand will not have to worry because you don’t have much anyway.
ive been poor all my life but i have rich friends and poor Friends and rather be with my poor Friends because they appreciate more than the rich