Need Help w response to a winning buyer on Ebay, now wants 2 back out, because I am Wiccan. Grrr HELP ?
OK here goes….
I sell items on Ebay as well as have my own separate website that cover a wide variety of interests and tastes. My items vary from Costume Jewelry and Spiritual Jewelry, Incense, Candles, Clothing, Glass Lampwork beads as well as other beads and findings.
Yes, I am Wiccan by faith… so I do have items that I sell that are occult related, Well More Wiccan/Pagan related.
Obviously I am once again dealing with ignorance from Ebay buyers.
For those of you that dont know, When as auction has been won, It is a binding contract between seller and buyer.
Now she refuses to pay for it because of her “conscience”. That it just isnt right.
On a side note she had placed an additional order request with me for several pounds of beads, Then I got another email later that she saw an auction I had for something related to the occult, CD-ROM Book Of Shadows, both My own, and all the spells from Charmed. Plus some herbs, oils, nothing by any means “dark” do I carry in my stock.
I guess I am just fed up with Ignorance, and having people occasionally try to back out of sales simply due to different religious views…
Below is the email she just now sent me trying to explain why I should let her back out of the sale:
“re: 3/25/09
I received your email and I appreciate your reply however as I explained I am ‘not able’ to make the purchase due to my conscience. I was hoping that you would be more understanding. As I explained I love the beads I just cannot make a purchase when it is indirectly related to the occult. This is a matter of my conscience I have no choice in the matter. I really would appreciate your understanding just as you would want someone to be understanding for you. Would you not please reconsider? I am so very sorry for the inconvenience and I have meant no harm. I have been completely honest with you and truly wish this had never happened. I do not have a record of doing this and I am always quick to pay for my items. I have contacted eBay’s support team out of concern & they have advised me to try & reason with you.
It is not that I do not want to do what’s right,but this is a unique issue that requires understanding.Please reconsider. Thank you!”
OK, Now what is the best way to approach this lady? I have not been mean or hateful by any means, and she has not either…
I struggle for every dollar I make. And this was going to be a huge sale.
Just as someone would not like if a person, backed out of a sale because the Seller was Catholic and the Buyer Baptist…. It is flat out discrimination.
This is just absurd !!!!
I am at a loss as to what to say to her… I am out money already, as I had to pay listing fees, and Final Value fees upon completion of the auction… now the item she refuses to pay for.
Anyone have any ideas? So I am a practicing witch, specializing in Herbal mixtures, Aromatherapy Oils, Home Remedies, Custom blessings, Spiritual Counseling, Big Whoop !
I am very proud of who I am and my beliefs, there are so many different spiritual paths people take in life, and the majority of them all land us in the same place when all is said and done.
Any ideas would be greatly appreciated….
Thanks,
Raven
DOUG - I didnt tell her I was Wiccan, she saw other items I had listed, such as metaphysical books, Jewelry, Oils, etc…
Repossession
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Why did you tell her that you were Wiccan?
whats so bad about that??
I would just send her an email stating that she made a binding agreement with you and that you are sorry but it is not possible to back out of this. That you have incurred costs already and you are doing this for business and not for pleasure. If she for some reason cannot touch these beads because of her religious belief let her know that she could or you will donate them to an abused women’s shelter or an elementary school class to do projects with, but that she must pay the debt that she incurred with you. Anything less would be cheating you.
Assure her that you did not perform any magick on the beads and no ritual baby slayings either.
the woman is a christian, so am i… so i understand where she’s coming from. i wouldn’t buy anything from you either.. but she did make the bid and it’s not a christian thing to do to back out now. because that is cheating you out of your money. so tell her if her conscience is telling her not to buy/accept the item thats fine you won’t send it to her. but she still needs to give you the money or she is breaking a commandment because she is basically stealing from you by not paying.
Tell her you have incurred costs already and must be compensated.
umm no just tell her you dont do black magic or associate with “evil”.
Tell her youer not a Satanist just an idolatress
Some people get freaked out by the occult.
Anyways good luck in your dealing and Jah bless.
I would just ask her to cover the expenses you have already incurred and move on. Someone else will buy the beads, and if you get your money back for the listing fee, etc., then you’ve lost nothing.
Report her to ebay. Simple.
Deal is a deal. Interesting that her conscience is “forcing” her to not buy the beads, but that same conscience doesn’t have a problem with her backing out of a legal contract! Thou shall not bear false witness, indeed!
I’d hold her to it, I’d use all of the resources available through Ebay to get your money, and I would give her negative feedback if she doesn’t carry through.
She’s laying a guilt trip on you, making it sound like you’re being unreasonable if you insist on holding her to what she promised.
Tell her plainly the beads have nothing to do with the occult. Beads are beads. Also tell her that this is how you make a living, that there are responsibilities as an Ebay seller that you keep to (paying your fees, for examples), and that it is more thaqn reasonable to expect this woman to live up to her responsibilities as a bidder, responsibilities she agreed to when she chose to use Ebay.